Question 1

What types of relationships do you support?

Accepted Answer

We specialize in coaching individuals, couples, and polycules in polyamory and ethical non-monogamy (ENM). However, we welcome all relationship structures, including monogamous, open relationships, relationship anarchy, queer relationships, co-parenting, long-distance and other alternative relationship forms.

Coaching can be beneficial for improving any relationships in your life, not just romantic partnerships. We can work with you to improve your relationships with family, friends, and even in the workplace.

Question 2

How is relationship coaching different from counselling or therapy?

Accepted Answer

Coaching and counselling differ in several key ways:
Focus:
Coaching is typically future-oriented, focusing on setting goals, creating action plans, and moving forward. It's about helping you improve specific areas of your life, like relationships, by building skills, solving problems, and making decisions.
Counselling often looks at the past to understand present challenges. It tends to focus more on healing emotional pain or addressing mental health concerns, such as anxiety, depression, or trauma.

Approach:
Coaching takes a more practical, solutions-based approach. It helps you identify your current situation, clarify your goals, and develop strategies to get there. Coaching assumes you're capable of growth and positive change, focusing on personal development and empowerment.
Counselling is more therapeutic and often delves deeper into emotional issues. The aim is to resolve psychological distress, working through unresolved trauma, and fostering emotional healing.

Role of the Professional:
Coaches act as guides or facilitators, helping you unlock your potential and achieve specific objectives. They do not diagnose or treat mental health disorders. Instead, they focus on enhancing skills, such as communication, self-awareness, or emotional intelligence, particularly in areas like relationships.
Counsellors or therapists are trained to diagnose and treat mental health conditions. They provide emotional support, help clients process past experiences, and assist in understanding behavioural patterns that may affect mental well-being.

Scope:
Coaching is typically focused on specific areas of life, like career, relationships, or personal growth. In the context of relationship coaching, the goal is to enhance relationship dynamics, manage challenges, and work towards desired outcomes, such as better communication or understanding relationship structures.
Counselling addresses broader emotional or psychological concerns. It may involve deeper work on issues like grief, trauma, or long-standing emotional patterns.

Duration and Structure:
Coaching is usually shorter-term, with a clear structure, focused on achieving measurable goals. The relationship with the coach is collaborative, and the client is encouraged to take ownership of their progress.
Counselling can be both short-term or long-term, depending on the complexity of the issues being addressed. It may involve ongoing support over a longer period as deep-rooted emotional issues are explored.

Question 3

How do I know if I need coaching or counselling?

Accepted Answer

If you are struggling with mental health challenges like anxiety, depression, or trauma, you may benefit from seeing a licensed therapist or counsellor. If you're looking for guidance in navigating relationship dynamics, improving communication, or making decisions regarding polyamory or ethical non-monogamy, coaching might be a better fit.

Question 4

Do you offer support for individuals as well as couples or groups?

Accepted Answer

Yes, we offer coaching for individuals, couples, and polycules (relationship networks). We tailor each session to meet your unique needs, whether you're seeking help with self-awareness, communication, jealousy, or exploring new relationship dynamics.

Question 5

How are sessions conducted?

Accepted Answer

Sessions are available via telephone or video call, allowing for flexibility based on your preferences. We also offer ongoing support through Telegram, where you can send text messages or voice notes for more casual, on-the-go support.

Question 6

What can I expect from a coaching session?

Accepted Answer

Coaching sessions are a safe and non-judgmental space to explore your relationship goals and challenges. We will help you identify key areas of focus, work through difficulties like jealousy or boundary-setting, and create actionable steps to enhance your relationship dynamics and improve your communication.

Question 7

Can you help if we're new to polyamory or ethical non-monogamy?

Accepted Answer

Absolutely! Many of our clients are at different stages of their journey, including those who are curious about opening their relationship, or those who have already begun and are navigating the complexities of multiple partners. We have tailored programmes for newcomers, those adjusting to poly life, and those seeking deeper relationship harmony.

Question 8

What if my partner(s) and I are having trouble with communication or boundaries?

Accepted Answer

This is a common area where coaching can be incredibly effective. We’ll help you establish clear communication strategies, practice active listening, and work on boundary-setting tools that can help foster healthier relationships.

Question 9

How can coaching help with jealousy in polyamory?

Accepted Answer

Jealousy is a common experience in polyamory, and coaching can help you understand its root causes, reframe your perspective, and develop tools to manage and transform it into something productive. We work on emotional processing, communication, and trust-building strategies.

Question 10

Do you offer support for breakups in polyamorous relationships?

Accepted Answer

Yes, we offer coaching support for navigating breakups or shifts in relationship structures. Polyamorous relationships can have unique challenges when it comes to transitioning dynamics, and we can help you manage these changes with compassion and clarity.

Question 11

Can I try a Telegram-only support option?

Accepted Answer

Yes! Our Telegram support option allows you to send texts or voice notes for ongoing support in between or instead of formal sessions. It’s a great way to get quick feedback or support when needed without scheduling a full session. Contact us for more information.

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